09/28/16 8:00am

Faeries Take New York!

new-york-skylineHave you ever noticed how travel helps expand your consciousness? By stepping outside your everyday routine, you’re able to tune into a different rhythm, one that’s perhaps deeper and more authentic. We just came back from a conference in New York City, and wow! Minds blown open.

The event we attended is itself based on freedom and expansion: the 2nd annual Life Without Instructions unschooling conference. While our own journey with unschooling Starcat’s two kids is pretty much done (or at least the intense hands-on part – as they’ve now officially graduated), we still resonate with this amazing tribe of unschoolers. It’s a group of families who are thinking WAY outside the box, not only in terms of education, but in all aspects of life.

We attended sessions on intentional communities, writing & mythology, finding & living your life’s purpose, and the Desire Map. We boogied with abandon to 70s classics, led a drum circle and several guided meditations, and expanded ourselves while learning from inspiring folks of all ages.


Playing music was one of the highlights for the teens we took along (ElvenTiger, her boyfriend, and a new friend who hitched a ride with us). There was a stage set up throughout the week that was open to anyone to use. They also had fun dressing up for the 70s “Mom Prom” themed dance.


There was a goat battle, a game of human bowling, and “monkey in the middle” – all of which used those big yoga balls that people usually sit on. One of our teens’ favorite activities was watching Star Wars in the workout room. No, really.


We met some interesting characters there, including a Unicorn playing the Ukulele. You just don’t see that every day.


There was this one fellow faerie girl, about seven years old, who loved hanging out with us. She was sassy and fun. Her Dad said he had some kids complain that his daughter was casting spells on them. Her response when he asked her about it was, “well, they were really annoying…” Can’t argue with that!


Before we headed back to New England, we took a ride on the Staten Island Ferry (Faerie?) and took a visit to the heart of the Big Apple, Broadway. Five of us went into the city for the day and had ourselves a fun fae adventure.

There are always big things in the Big Apple; some are bigger than others. Check out this guy’s, um, large orbs.


There was also a very interesting sale going on… Okay, yes, we’re all about the double entendres. At least the patrons were happy.


As country kittens, we tended to seek out the green spaces, even in the big city. We walked through Battery Park, where we saw this big eagle.


We also found a few other places along the way where ElvenTiger, our druid type, could feel more comfortable.


They even had a Farmer’s Market going on! Local, organic produce, deep in the city.


We had some tasty Indian cuisine for lunch, then later we snacked on honey-roasted peanuts, and devoured some delicious gelato. The store was looking for “gelato artists,” and we can understand why – such beautiful food!


We made wishes in fountains.


We encountered mystical creatures disguised as statues along the way, griffins,


and a lion quintet who serenaded us as we passed…only in New York!


A decorative Celtic cross adorned one of the historic churches, which is now completely dwarfed by skyscrapers.


We loved the wide variety of interesting buildings. This one seemed to be wishing us a happy Fall Equinox!


Starcat’s favorite was this building under construction, which looks like a game of Jenga! It’s on her bucket list to go up in it someday.


A giant container of scarlet begonias reminded us of one of our favorite bands. Can you guess who it is?


By the time we found our way back to the Ferry, we were all pretty tired.


The views were even more lovely on the way back; we even caught a glimpse of some of the faeries of New York celebrating with the Statue of Liberty. Their blessings helped revive us for our long drive back home.


08/24/16 8:00am

The Ultimate Creative Freedom

Starcat_braidThe Ultimate Creative Freedom
by Starcat

From nearly the moment we’re born, we’re encouraged to live by the rules of our family, community, and culture. To some extent, that makes sense. We want new humans to learn that there are boundaries, that they should be kind to others, respect their property, and all of the things associated with honoring one another.

However, the box has gotten gradually smaller and smaller. There are so many rules and directives that by the time we reach adulthood, most of us are confused. We either find ourselves not knowing who we really are, because we’ve been following the advice of others for much of our lives, or we feel like a rebel, a misfit, or somehow wrong for being different.

It’s time to stop and reclaim your ultimate creative freedom: the ability to live the life that you desire, and to fulfill the purpose that you came here for.

I’m not saying that it’s easy. After a childhood as a people-pleaser, a straight-A student, a conformist, I began to discover who I really was when I went off to college. Over my adult life, I’ve been exploring my passions, and discovering what makes me unique – which is often what society may label as “weird.”

I’m a vegetarian and a Pagan. I’m a mystic. I live in a polyamorous family, and we unschooled both of our kids. I’m a night owl, I believe in aliens and astrology, I worship cats. I’m a bookworm and don’t have commercial or cable TV. I’m (mostly) self-employed, a writer, and a thriving artist. I’m a hippie and a geek, equally at home at a Grateful Dead show and a Dungeons & Dragons game. I don’t, however, like video games (except Pokemon Go, of course). I’m an environmentalist, and the majority of my clothes come from the thrift store. I don’t wear makeup. I am an optimist and I believe in the power of play. I could go on and on…

As you might imagine, all of this difference leaves me feeling isolated sometimes. But it’s worth it. Why? Because, by heeding my muses and not conforming to others’ expectations of me, I’ve given myself the gift of freedom to create the life I want to live.

No one told me I could do this. Some people don’t like it. Sometimes they don’t like me – and I’m fine with that. In my younger years, that form of rejection would have horrified me. Now, I value my creative freedom over the arbitrary opinions of other people.

This can be true for you, too, if you choose to accept it.

You might feel like you’re too boxed in, too invested in the pursuits you’ve already learned, too held back by those around you. Change is hard, and inertia, while unsatisfying, can be easier. By turning your back on your own uniqueness, though, you’re walking away from a whole lot of joy, love, and fulfillment. You’re hiding from your true tribe, those who will love you for the real you. You might even be denying your soul’s purpose, which could become a source of intense meaning and empowerment.

Are you willing to take that risk or are you ready to step forward and claim your weirdness? Fly your freak flag for all the world to see!

I hope you’ll step up today, perhaps just in a small way at first, to claim your true creative freedom. You can create a life that fills you with wild satisfaction. You’re the only one who knows how. Trust your inner guidance and soar into your unique creative freedom!

08/10/16 8:00am

Free to Be Me

FB_20160412_12_30_15_Saved_PictureFree to Be Me
by BlackLion

Have you ever thought of yourself as unique, gifted, or eccentric? Do you feel like you are ho-hum, run-of-the-mill, or normal? Perhaps you are a mix of all these things, depending on what subject or attribute, like creativity, intelligence, social status, or kindness. The great thing is, you are free to choose who you are.

Freedom is a state of mind, because it is through your intention and focus that the universe provides you what you are wanting and feeling. Of course, you were influenced from your youngest years to do what you were told, go along to get along, and so many other rules while you grew up as part of a family and community. Yet now you get to decide how you react to these intense stimuli. You may choose to fight, choose flight, or simply hide in plain sight.

Free will is the ability to choose and discern what is best for you in your life and what could feel better, even much better. By actively engaging your inner senses and communicating with your spiritual guidance, you can figure out what it is that makes you, You. And with this ability to choose, you can be, do and have anything you want.

Being who you are can be pretty scary. Wow, you are completely and wholly responsible for what happens in your life, including the crud. But now that you are free to be who you are, you get to shine your light in whatever ways you want. By using your magickal tools – meditation, affirmations, yoga, focus wheels, etc. – you are facilitating your unique expression of the true you. And the freedom you’ll discover is profound!

When you choose the intention of “free to be me,” you are the champion of your own life. You get to decide how you see your life, your co-creators, and your loved ones. You get to choose which kind of work pleases and nourishes you. You are free to be the creative genius you know you are.

So what are some of the roadblocks to your freedom? Perhaps you have some limiting beliefs that are holding you back. Do you feel like you are not worthy of success? Do you feel that others are keeping you down or scuttling your dreams? One of the most important reminders you can have is to know that you are responsible (thankfully) for your own happiness. By taking your power back, not that you ever truly lost it, you get to choose what you think and feel about your life.

And with this power, you are free!

Your mindset is vitally important and when you are feeling cranky, upset, or angry, you are only attracting circumstances that will increase those feelings. Acknowledge them, feel them and then let them go. When you focus on your creativity, joy, and love, the universe draws to you people and experiences that match those feelings too. What an awesome superpower!

Understand that you are the captain of your own ship and that you get to be free to be who you are because you choose to. Your intention is vitally important. Foster feelings of freedom, even simple ones like choosing what feels better in each moment. Freedom is a feeling and continuing to feel this way will open up so much beauty and wonder and joy and love in your life. Cheers!

What ways do you see yourself as free? What about areas of your life that feel stuck? Make a self-assessment and create more opportunities to free yourself!